My favorite saying is “I’m a delicate butterfly”! It is a constant reminder to myself and others that I am multifaceted and precious. Ancient Greeks and Romans believe that the butterfly was a symbol of your soul. So for me I guard my soul at all costs. I don’t want anyone destroying my ability to fly. I don’t want to destroy my ablity to fly. It is easy for the outside world to forget and not treat you like the delicate butterfly that you are. But it is also even easier to not treat ourselves that way. I use delicate butterfly as a reminder of three things: 1. Not to beat myself up 2. Self care 3. I am awesome. We all know we can be our own worst critic. On the other hand we don’t want to lie to ourselves. There has to be a happy median where we keep it real with ourselves but we don’t beat ourselves up. That is where I insert the idea that I’m a delicate butterfly. I may not be perfect I surely make plenty of mistakes but I am someone that deserves love and care. Not just love and care from others but love and care for myself. I feel that love and care of self is most important and happens first. How you treat yourself trains others on how to treat you. I strongly believe and telling myself the things that I need to hear. I need to be reminded that I am beautiful, special, funny, intelligent, loving, and worthey. And for me I sum all of that up into saying that I’m a delicate butterfly.
I remind myself that I’m a delicate butterfly and I also have to treat myself as such. One of the most important tasks of my week is the time I spend taking care of me. I love me time, but finding that time is hard. The goal is to find 5 to 10 minutes three times a week that is all about me. That means no kids no spouse no social media just me. So I find myself taking small bits of time to do me. I enjoy waking up in the morning maybe a little early and take 10 minutes to do something for me. Now that my children are older it’s much easier for me to find me time. I might even get way too much me time. But when they were younger I had to find it and it was so important that I did. I didn’t want to wear out my wings. So I would either wake up early or try to do something after my children went to sleep. But that time was so important. It’s easy to get lost in the sauce and wear yourself thin when it comes to your family. But its important that you recharge. And sometimes the guilt of thinking you’re being selfish because you want to just do something for yourself is unfair. It is important that you have that time for yourself to refresh and revive you. Because remember you are a delicate butterfly! The time I take to moisturize my skin after the shower has become the most important time of my day. That 5 minutes of me time I hold so important. That five minutes I think about my day, my goals, or nothing at all. If all I get to myself is those 5 minutes I’m okay because those 5 minutes were all about me and it revives me daily. I highly suggest that you find that time and tune everything out and just be in your world for 5 minutes. You are multifaceted and precious you are a delicate butterfly!